My life changed dramatically and forever when I lost TJ.

I welcome you to follow along as I adjust to my "new normal".

It is not all puppies and ice cream but it is my life....real and honest.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Trusting Your Instincts

Most of the time when seeking advice we already know the answer. We generally only seek advice for permission to trust our instincts. I have stopped that and have begun making choices for myself. I have learned to take a step back and look at things objectively, make a choice, and stick with it.

I think the main reason for this is that I don't have TJ to bounce ideas off of anymore and I don't want to burden my friends with what may seem to them a somewhat minor decision. I must admit that I do "channel" TJ, or at least think to myself, "what would TJ do", especially when it comes to home projects.

Making any decision affects change and sometimes it can be scary to be solely responsible for that change. Often I don't know what the aftermath of a decision will be or if I will be able to deal with the aftermath on my own. I have learned that I need to trust my decisions and not second guess myself.

I am learning. Yes, I have made some bad decisions, but I have learned from those decisions and I know what I would do differently the next time. I have become comfortable with making mistakes. I know that sounds awful, but I used to hate it and berate myself for making mistakes. I now accept mistakes with grace and gratitude for the learning opportunity. I know I made the best decision possible with the knowledge and information I had available.

I read once, "Life is a hard hat zone. We are always under construction".  I know, for me, I have undergone a major renovation over the past few years. Much of me is better than before and parts are still a work in progress. I am at peace with that. Every day I get up and put one foot in front of the other, slowly moving forward, and on some days, just that is an accomplishment in and of itself.


  1. You have been rebuilding for a while. Of course, construction, while a pain, can change things for the better :-)

  2. i like your honesty - and your strength. :)

  3. Relearning is always hard, but we can just keep reaching towards the light.

  4. I LOVE your honesty.

    I love love love it!

    Xx I'll talk to you anytime you want.

  5. Sandy,

    Excellent, simple and honest post.
    Thanks for sharing.


  6. I doubt my decisions too, believing I'm not capable. This post was a refreshing reminder. Thank you, Sandy.

  7. Awesome outlook. I used to use Twitter as a guidebook - asking for them to make my decisions for me because I doubted myself so much. Now I try to trust my gut and make smart decisions. Thanks Sandy!


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